Making Love
Posted by Nicole on November 27, 2013
“You sure do write about sex a lot.”
Yes. That’s true, but I didn’t expect this. I’ve never cared much either way about sex, honestly. It’s not on my mind that often… not that you’d believe me with all this Love and Making It talk.
But something happened to me after my second baby was born and sex has become my yoga, my running, my self-care, my way back to loving my body and learning that my “self” is more than what is just in my head. I am not just a soul or an intellect. I am a body too. And this body is good – as good and perfectly created as my soul. Sex has become a the way I grow as a human, a Christian, a woman. My body and soul are reuniting and getting to know each other. This is why I keep talking about sex. I believe our bodies are good for way more than short bursts of pleasure from food or quick orgasm. Our bodies are much wiser and complicated than we give them credit for on a normal day.
Ask anyone who has a workout they absolutely love (a runner, a yogi…) and they will tell you how that exercise brings them joy and endorphins and knowledge and self confidence and health.
Movement. Courage. Vulnerability. Fun. Play. Appreciation.
This is sex. It’s not just mechanics. We are making love. It’s not easy, but it should be fun. And it can grow us as humans, if we let it. Growing in the areas that make sex great, also make life great.
The keys to great sex are trust, bravery and love.
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Sex is complicated, for sure. No one has been handed a clear and grace-ful sexuality. Sex can be the opposite of freeing and loving if we are not careful. We have to fight for it. We have to trailblaze through the jungle of confusion and false messages, fears and pride, hate and power-struggles.
This is why I’ve started the LOVE AND MAKING IT series. This is why I talk about sex. This is why I’ve invited other brave, wise people to participate and share their struggles and triumphs in this area. We need each other’s permission to process and grow. We need each other’s safe spaces. This is a safe space to become fully human – body and soul. Everything is connected. 1,000 Strands.
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The LOVE AND MAKING IT Series:
(lovely guests)
Sarah Wheeler – Beauty and the Porn Beast
Esther Emery – Wild Girls Dancing
Abby Norman – Don’t Touch My Boobs
Jennifer Upton – Naked Truth
Tara Owens – The Crowd in the Bedroom
Candice Jones – Confessions
Robin Chancer – This is Intimacy
Ellie Kay – Never Been Kissed
(from Nicole)
For You, I Will
Tonight I Can
When Your Body is a Minefield
With many more to come from me and from other powerful writers…
Esther said
Nicole, you are so wise and brave. Keep singing freedom, friend!
Nicole said
Thank you so much. It is my friends around the world who are inspiring me to fight for this space and for this version of the story to be told. I am grateful for brave, wise, fun voices that are willing to join me here. This whole series is rocking my world! 🙂 Thank you for your huge part too!
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